Starting Over After Divorce: What I Shared on the Personal Development Trailblazers Podcast
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This episode is full of insight and practical tools to help you emotionally uncouple and reclaim your next chapter.
So, how do you actually start to move on after divorce?
It doesn’t begin with a dating app or a vision board. It starts with something deeper:
Emotional uncoupling.
Before you can move forward, you need to clear out the habits, expectations, and emotional patterns left over from your marriage. The ones that keep you stuck in old roles, old thinking, and old energy.
Take stock of where you're still entangled. Then begin to let go.
Only then can you clearly ask: What do I want now?
That’s when real movement — and real healing — begins.
The Most Common Trap I See for Moms After Divorce
One big theme I see over and over again? Moms who desperately want their ex to parent well — and end up over-functioning to make that happen.
Maybe you’ve caught yourself doing it: smoothing things over, over-explaining, solving problems that aren’t yours to solve. And all that over-giving? It drains the very energy you need for your own parenting, your own household, your own life.
So how do you break the pattern?
Start by noticing the reflex — the urge to jump in and fix. Then pause.
Ask yourself: What do I want first?
That’s where your power is. Let go of what’s not yours to carry. Redirect your energy into your home — the rules, values, atmosphere, and emotional tone you want to create.
Your kids may experience different parenting styles at each home. That’s okay. What matters is how they feel when they’re with you.
A Simple Tip to Start Reclaiming Your Life
Want a surprisingly powerful place to start?
Begin with your bedroom.
Yes — your room.
Make it pretty. Make it smell good. Light a candle. Clean your nightstand. Put on sheets that make you feel held.
It might seem small, but it sends a big message: I matter. This is my space. My life is mine again.
And that care? It spreads — from your room, to the rest of your home, to your kids, and back to you.
🎧 Listen to the Full Episode
I dive deeper into all of this on my conversation with Personal Development Trailblazers. If you’re ready to start untangling from the past and create something new, you’ll want to hear it.
